Things That Make Your Marriage Work

Yesterday I posted the survey I asked my friends about The Best Part of Marriage. I also asked my friends how long they had been married and what made their marriage work. This is the response I received:

4 years...learning to say I'm sorry :) -Krystal

Married for 8 yrs: There's too much to choose from!

My fave Prov 31 and what that looks like in my life - Kristie

I'm actually divorced, but was married for 7 years- one major thing that I took with me out of that situation is a little grace towards one another can go a long way. Express appreciation often...
I'm so excited for you! - Pamela

1.5 years...enjoy being a newly wed and all the stereotypical things that come with it, rather than eagerly trying to get to the next stage of having everything and doing everything. Being creative in the young, early years is fun if you go into it with that mind set that it will be. - Jenna

communication, communication, communication...stay in love every day and have fun...3 years for us next week! - Phillip

31 yrs...respect for one another, love, patience, forgiveness and so much more. Marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100. You and Cody have a great future together. - Diane

8 years. My best advice is to perservere. And follow all the other advice!;) remember you are puzzle pieces not cookie cutters! ;) - Brie

Remember no one is prefect, even you. Be slow to anger, consider why the issue came about. Love is deeper than the issue, don't confuss them. Ask God to help you through not change the issue. With Him all things are possible! Been there dont that, far better to make this one work!! 26 first time and very ignorant, almost 27 second time and much more learned and still very happy. - Agnes

3 years--I'd say what has kept us going strong is always making an effort each day to put the other before our self. Also, praying together and being active in God's work together has been really important to us. Marriage is such a beautiful picture of Christ's grace and mercy. He has such an awesome journey for you and Cody! - Holly

The three C's that should be in every marriage: Christ, communication, and compromise. We will celebrate 10 yrs of marriage next month. - Desiree

1.5 years. Not going to bed angry. And being able to admit when you are wrong. - Sarah R.

18 wonderful, challenging years! Find your identity in Christ - your husband can't "complete" you; but you can compliment each other! You can make each other better people. Choose your words carefully - once it's out of your mouth you cannot take it back. Words can build up or tear down. Finally, never quit dating! Romance each other, laugh together - alot! - Julie

It's been 5 fun, learning years with Beau and I would say communication is huge. Also if you make it a point to show each other an act of appreciation, respect, or love daily, it will make life that much easier. I said easier, not perfect. One last thing... don't try to change each other to be your ideal person, there is a reason you fell in love with one another in the first place!! :) I can't wait for the big day!! - Chelsey

When you fight, fight naked! ;) --1 yr. 9 months! - Ginger

we got some great advice from our pastor and his wife right before we got married. if you are starting to argue or get frustrated with each other, take a minute to go off on your own and pray for yourself and your spouse. it humbles your attitude and reminds you in that moment that God wants you to have grace toward each other the way He shows it to us! - Christina

Im not sure I can post that on facebook without getting flagged~but it works! --married almost 17 years to my highschool sweetheart! - Ashley K.

Hi sweetie ive been married 5 years and am so happy! Just remember to not be too hard on him because your both going to mess up from time to time, but never go to bed angry and dont let him either, fighting is a part of marriage and its normal and you can get through it - Tammy

We've been married just over three years, and I think the best advice we've gotten was when a dear friend talked to us about apologizing. I'm terrible at it. He told us that apologizing is acknowledging that what you did or said ran over/hurt the other person. It doesn't mean you were necessarily wrong. This has helped me so much! There are times ... Read Morethat I know I've hurt Chad when I didn't mean to, and I simply need to recognize that I hurt him. Now, I often have to add "I was wrong" to my apology. I hope that makes since. I'm so excited for you! There is nothing more beautiful on this earth than being loved by a godly man. - Carrie

6 years - learn how you drain each other and how you fill each other up. Always work to maximize the latter. - Kevin

7 years in 2 weeks. Been a rough road only because I thought marriage just happened but really is takes a lot of work and perseverance. I second the communicate and never stop dating. And don't get too caught up in what you thought marriage should be. I am totally guilty of expecting marriage to be just like I dreamed it as a little girl. I have learned so much about reality. No one knows exactly how to be married until they learn. Be willing to forgive each other. I wish you two the best of luck:) 

- Marisa

9...when there is a time when things just don't seem right....one or both of you are not where you need to be with God.....the closer you are to HIM the closer you are to each other.....

ps. but you are not allowed to tell the other person that they are the one fallen away...unless God gives you permission.... - Nicole

So, How long have you been married and how do you make it work?!

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